Our next step – Step 4, is Leave No Room for Doubt.
You say, “Let’s go to the drugstore. I need a new pair of reading glasses.” Your friend says, “Are you sure? We could probably get the same thing cheaper at the mall.”
You say, “I hired a new accountant.” He says, “Are you really ready to invest in that?”
You say, “I’m joining 24-Hour Fitness.” He says, “Bally’s is running a special this week.”
And if you were to take his advice and go to the mall, fire your accountant, or head over to Bally’s, he’d have problems with that, too. That’s because his input isn’t a matter of helpful suggestions; it’s only designed to make you question your own choices.
If you had a friend who constantly questioned every move you made like this, you’d probably knock him in the teeth.
If this behavior is so unacceptable in our friendships, why do we do it to ourselves? We choose – and then we immediately revisit that decision over and over again. Here’s the problem: Sometimes there are no “right” decisions. There are only choices we make and live with.
That’s why to take yourself to the next level, you need to let go of doubt. Accept that you’re working with imperfect knowledge and that you’re a smart cookie and that you will indeed make some mistakes along the way. But tell yourself that whatever happens, you can handle it.
If you pay $5 too much for reading glasses, you can live with that.
If you hire an accountant and discover you’re really not ready, you can let him go.
If you join the “wrong” gym, you can always switch.
Often we think that we are at the whim of circumstance and we can’t control the outcome. Not so! If you chose to buy a Toyota instead of a Honda, YOU get to decide whether that was a successful outcome. Does it get you from Point A to Point B? Does it get the required gas mileage? Is it a safe ride? (By the way, these are probably all items you considered before you made your purchase!) If the answer is “Yes,” then congratulations! You made a successful purchase!
The situation with your business may be a little different. The “success” criteria are not as clear-cut, but your influence on the outcome is no less significant. You can hustle, work extra hours if need be, commit to working things out, or even end up selling the business and thanking the benevolent heavens for giving you the opportunity to learn some lessons along the way.
Commit to doing whatever it takes to ensure your choice was a good one. And don’t doubt your own ability to make it so.